I have revealed my wife cheated on me.  Several times with several guys.  I have never 'caught her in the act', because she is a pathological liar and pathological cheater.  But you know deep down something is different when married for 20 years.  And this has torn me up for 5 - 10 years.  She cheated about 10 years ago, then again 5 years ago.

My profile may confuse some.  Yes I would like to 'share' my wife but be there and know about it.  But the situation created a monster in my wife, and developed a side of her I did not know existed.  Her infidelity has almost destroyed me.  I know she did, she says you have no proof. 

I have gone through several scenarios in my mind to be able to handle the pain and be able to keep the marriage together.  We have small *****, and I refuse to let another man raise my *****.

So I think I have come up with something that seems to work for me so far after 10 years.  If there are others reading this, maybe this will work for you.

In my mind, I am one of those guys that is fucking her, taking her behind her husbands back, without his knowledge.  In my mind, we are not married, we just are partners.  No commitment.  I dont tell her I love her, and if she ever asks why, I will tell her because you cheated on me.  But she knows why.  She never asks.

But I am just fucking her as if she is a woman at work, unhappy at home, and I am taking advantage of her.  This way I am getting lots of hot pussy, I am making her do things she has never done.  She is my slut, not my wife.  If you can put your self in the place of one of her lovers, just think of what they would do, and do it to her.

I talk sexy to her, I tell her the things I want to do to her.  It gets her hot, and I get to use her body.  So far it is working for me.