I love my wife, i really do but when it comes to sex its 10 minutes missionary position with the lights off. I have realised i am definately bi sexual, i cant deny it anymore. but i still have to hide it as its not exactly the kinda news you just drop in conversation. i wont be able to act on it anyway cos that could ruin what i have with the wife. I have tried to spice things up loads of times but she looks at me as if i am a perv who needs locking up, even the idea of a blow job makes her frown at me. I see sex not as sacred but more something fun and if done right exciting but i wont be doing it because my lady is not into it. im not here for answers just pity really, i am left to go it alone when she is out and i have tried most things but can you suggest something that i could try???? maybe if its good i would post it on here. anyways going for a soapy wank in the shower.